7. Overcoming Fear of Failure & Self-Sabotage
Broadcast Notes
Review
Imposter Syndrome is a confidence issue. Can only be in certain areas of life & not overall.
Confidence= Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities — not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic, secure way. Confidence isn't about feeling superior to others. It's a quiet inner knowledge that you're capable. Confident people: ... feel ready for everyday challenges like tests, performances, and competitions (1.).
· You can be confident in certain areas and not in others
· Lack of confidence is rooted in self-doubt
· Thoughts of self-doubt comes from the enemy Why? Our security should come from God…. We are fearfully and wonderfully made (Ps 139:14)
· Practice Thought Stopping (2 Cor 10:5)
How to Combat Imposter Syndrome
· Word of God
· Presence of God
· Prayer (Renounce/release strongholds and/or deliverance)
o Therapy to deal with deep wounds
· Continual growth & development in God and your area of expertise
What is stopping your execution?
Execution= the carrying out or putting into effect of a plan, order, or course of action (2.) https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/execution
You can experience fear of failure as:
· Not wanting to try something new or things that might feel like a challenge
o Being out of your comfort zone
o Afraid to take calculated risks
· Self-Sabotage
o Excessive Anxiety
o Low-self-esteem or confidence (i.e. Imposter Syndrome)
o Critical inner dialogue
o Letting these self-destructive behaviors become habits which undermine what God is trying to do in our life. You are in control instead of God.
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· Perfectionism
o You will not step out unless it is perfect, or you know you will be successful
Please locate yourself….
Failure is a mindset. It is a mental picture you show yourself over & over again.
~Dr.Andrea
Decide to execute!!!!
10 Signs of Fear of Failure (3.)
1. Failing makes you worry about what other people think about you.
2. Failing makes you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire.
3. Failing makes you worry that people will lose interest in you.
4. Failing makes you worry about how smart or capable you are.
5. Failing makes you worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value.
6. You tend to tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations.
7. Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed.
8. You often get last-minute headaches, stomach aches, or other physical symptoms that prevent you from completing your preparation.
9. You often get distracted by tasks that prevent you from completing your preparation which, in hindsight, were not as urgent as they seemed at the time.
10. You tend to procrastinate and "run out of time" to complete you preparation adequately.
Mindset= you do not fail you learn….
Decide to execute today. What is it going to take?
· A plan with goals (Big 3 daily & weekly)
· A community
· Knowledge
· Accountability
· A kick in the pants!!!!
Whatever needs to happen do it! KBLN is designed for just that.
Get quick wins. Work on 1 thing at a time. Build systematically and intelligently. Have a solid foundation.
What are your excuses….. still waiting in God…. ?Could it be that God is waiting for you to move… when you move he moves. If you are listening to Him he will pause & redirect you as needed.
Have faith in the word.
Ps 37:23 AMP
23 The steps of a [good] man are directed and established by the Lord when He delights in his way [and He busies Himself with his every step].
References: (1.) https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/confidence.html (2.) https://www.lexico.com/en/definition/execution (3.) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201306/10-signs-you-might-have-fear-failure